Today I was tested. My nerves are on edge due to some family situations. I have a craving to ease them. I have a craving to be free, fun, and energetic. This has not hit me in a while. It’s a first since I have started this commitment to overcome my cravings.
I have house guests so my boyfriend cannot bring himself to fuck me the way that I need it. My nerves stretch thinner by the day. My frustration lashes out uncontrollably.
Today I was tested. I have a friend (who is just a friend) that shares similar tastes in several things. Today, he stopped by my desk to say hi and chat for a moment. A normal conversation about a friends wedding, our kids, music, and art. I do not believe that he is interested in me in a sexual nature and he knows nothing of my sexual beliefs. However, there is something about the look in his eyes, the smile when he’s talking, and his intent movements that lead me to believe he is also a hidden free spirit. Those of us similar in nature are drawn to one another instinctively. As he is talking and I’m observing I catch myself wondering. He is not super attractive but he is highly intelligent and effortlessly holds your attention in conversation. Somehow I knew he could be obtained with little to no work.
My mind was slipping right back into it’s comfort zone. Predictably moving from one familiar stage to another. First, was the wondering about the quality of experience. Second, was the evaluation of the effort needed to obtain it. Last came the dangerous stage of justification. My mind was trying to justify reasons that it would be ok (e.g., I needed the release that I couldn’t get from the boyfriend or a free spirit should be with another because they can truly appreciate it).
Nothing was playing in my head about the love I felt for my guy or the things I would be throwing away for nothing substantial in return. I was on auto pilot and it all happened in a remarkably fast amount of time. Unless they were a mind reader, no one would have the slightest inkling about what was dancing through my head.
To help you picture how deep this runs through me and how automated my brain is at times…The last part of this was happening as the boyfriend is not more than 30 feet away from me at his desk. Finally, I heard his voice talking to someone and it triggered the rational part of me to kick in.
My conversation ended with my friend. As I turned around at my desk I realized that I made a small accomplishment. I know that I still want that rush of freedom and the high of being released from restraint. However, I also know that I’m not going to act on it in any form. The stress n frustration still grows but I only have to withstand it until Sunday. Believing that I fully have the ability to handle that brings it’s own rush.
As I lay in bed alone tonight, I feel a small bit of relief. I passed my 1st test!
Till the next trip – D